Cocky vs. Confident
I’m one of the most competitive people you will ever meet.
You name the game and I’m eager and ready to play and win. If a score can be kept, I’m anxious to compete as many times as it takes to win: ABC games on road trips, board games, sports, trivia, video games, Jeopardy, etc.
Not only do I want to play, but I’m cocky in believing I can win.
With that being said, I’m confident about losing 150 pounds in 2009. Not cocky, but confident. While cocky and confident have almost identical definitions (both meaning self-assured), you become cocky when you become “overly” self-assured and confident.
That’s the textbook definition, anyway — it’s fairly relative. I have my own definition.
Being cocky means thinking you’re better than others. While it’s perfectly acceptable to be confident and think you’re able to accomplish anything, being cocky means doubting the ability and resolve of someone else.
Take for example my basketball skills. I think they’re above average. I used to go to shooting contests when I was little and would walk away with the first or second place trophy. I was always the MVP on my teams. I was larger than most of the kids (which was good when you were 12) and I didn’t miss often.
I was and still am good at basketball. I’m confident about my basketball skills.
I turn from confident to cocky when I doubt the ambition, determination, and skills of someone else. While I can practice all day long and consider myself good at basketball, I become cocky when I think that my skills are better than yours before I step onto the court. I become cocky when I assume that I’ve practiced harder, longer, and have a better jump shot than you.
While it’s fine to be confident about my skills, it’s cocky to be doubtful of yours. And normally when I’m cocky, I usually get my butt tore up on the court.
It’s funny how that works.
When it comes to weight loss and setting any sort of goals in life for yourself, there’s no such thing as cockiness. If you’re not 100% confident in your ability to accomplish anything, than you’re filled with at least 1% self-doubt. That 1% self-doubt will appear on some random Tuesday on your drive home from work — it’ll tell you to skip the gym and go home and watch Golden Girls. Self-doubt is a vicious, poisonous character trait that has to be avoided at all costs.
Personally, I have a lot of goals in my life. They include:
Be a good husband
Be a good father to Natalee
Be able to emotionally and financially provide for my family
Live on an old Southern plantation
When it comes to weight loss goals, I want to lose 150 pounds in 2009. I don’t really consider that a separate goal though, that’s part of being a good husband/father and being able to provide for my family.
It’s hard providing for your family when you’re dead at 50 40.
While some may call me cocky for moving weight loss goals I’ve yet to even reach, I call it confidence. I’m not competing against anybody. Nobody can stop me from losing weight. Barring some horrible tragedy, I’m the only one who gets to decide whether I reach my goals or not.
I decide with the actions I take today. And tomorrow. And the next day. I’m confident about losing weight. 150 pounds in 12 months, to be exact.
I know I will — there’s nothing you can do to stop me.