Selfish and Overweight
I was extremely selfish when I was obese.
I’m not trying to make the connection between one being overweight and being selfish. Simply put, and speaking only for myself, I was extremely selfish when I weighed 344 pounds. It was only after I lost over 100 pounds was I told by many people that my selfish nature had disappeared. I saw/see it for myself, as well.
You can make the connection if you’d like. I’m just here to tell a story.
I was always tired when I was obese. Think of the energy at the start of your day like a full glass of water — as you complete tasks throughout the day, each task takes a disproportionate amount of water (energy) from your glass.
Eventually, as you continue to focus on basic chores, responsibilities, and hobbies, your glass runs out of water. Your energy, care, and desire to be amazing and get things done goes away. Once it does, you’re usually left with a lethargic, almost lazy mood, the kind of mood that makes you want to stay inside, wear little to nothing (or is that just me?), order a pizza, and send the kids to the other room so you can watch 4 hours of a basketball game that really has no meaning to you.
Of course, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. In fact, it sounds perfect to me. There is something wrong though when this is a daily occurrence.
I don’t know if being selfish and being overweight are related. They’re certainly not synonymous, like some would lead you to believe. If anything, I’d be more inclined to say that being out of shape (mentally and physically) leads one to being selfish. There are plenty of “normal” weight people who fall into this category.
Regardless of your weight, just stop being selfish.
Get in shape, mentally and physically. Go play with your kids. Go for a run. If you can’t run, then walk. Read a book. Maybe three. Dance with your kids. Dream. Read some old poems from high school. Stay up late. Sit in the sun. Stop going through the motions. Make a plan to get where you want to be in 5 years. Learn a new hobby. Stop being so boring. Find new music. Wake up early. Make love to your husband or wife and ask for nothing in return.
Do as much as you can for others and they’ll take care of you. My cup isn’t mine — it belongs to my wife. My neighbors. My mother. My children. You.
Go fill your cup.