How to Gain Confidence
You’ve got to fake it until you make it.
Back in January of 2009, weighing 344.2 pounds, I felt like Jillian Michaels. Even though I had never been successful at losing weight before, I felt like this time was the time I was going to succeed at losing weight. I started counting calories and simply eating foods in moderation. Four years later and 125+ pounds loss, the pseudo confidence I had back in those days turned into actual confidence.
Just a couple of weeks ago, never having written a book before, I felt like Stephen King right before I hit the “publish” button. I went through the whole book process for years with the confidence that the book was going to eventually be a bestseller. Sure, it was naive, ignorant, and pretty stupid of me to think that, but I had to believe that to keep going. I would’ve never finished the book otherwise.
Today, my book is a bestseller and has nearly perfect reviews (4.6/5) on Amazon.
You’ve got to believe in what you’re doing to be successful. If you don’t, doubt will consume you. Doubt will cause you to abandon your goals, whatever they may be.
There’s no magic trick to gaining confidence. You gain confidence by faking the confidence first and by standing in front of the mirror when you’re 50 pounds overweight and telling yourself “I’m a sexy beast.”
Eventually, you will be a sexy beast. You’ve just got to believe it first.